I guess being a mom means you are not able to be competent at anything else, much less be able to juggle both mothering at work at the same time.
My coworker just told me that he doesn’t trust me to do anything important with the students I teach because I have my daughter along with me!
He wrote:
“And I so understand why you do this right now……I really do….But I don’t feel you can be totally productive with the baby in your arms while at
rehearsal trying to clean and possibly write something. But Let me tell you,,,,,I would never ever ask you to leave your beautiful girl at home. I guess this seems like I am right now. But I am not, I am just saying I don’t see you being very productful with her there…. I felt like I couldn’t ask you to do anything with the group because you may have to attend to her needs. And her needs are what is important over the guard. So I didn’t ask much of you at rehearsal because I didn’t want to be a reason of you neglecting her when she needed you. To me and I know you…….The baby comes first no matter what age she is…….And I couldn’t, with good thinking or a good heart, ask anything from you for that reason. I just NEVER said anything because I didn’t want to hurt your feelings. And I actually would, as I do now, feel like, I just said something horribly unthinkable to you.. I know you truely believe you can. But I have seen you in front of the flag line with her in your arms and nothing was getting a complished with them…..But what could I say to a new mother,,,,,,,,,,glad you had a baby but leave her at home? NO I THINK NOT………if I am a mean person like most think I am, guess I would, but I am not a mean ugly person. So I never said anytihing… I just wished there was someone there you trusted with her to watch over her at rehearsal and if you were truely needed by her, you would be right there for her.”
Nice huh?
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November 11th, 2009 at 8:07 pm
The key word is co in co-worker. Not boss.
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November 11th, 2009 at 8:22 pm
He is kind of a boss… Well, more like a leader. He’s in charge of me but didn’t hire me… His boss did.
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November 12th, 2009 at 8:26 pm
Sigh… Ignore him. Carry on doing the things you do best, and maybe just check with your actual boss that you’re performing okay.
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November 12th, 2009 at 9:12 pm
1) What an ass. If you’re getting your job done, who the hell cares if you have 20 infants strapped to your body?! Is your daughter screaming overmuch during rehearsal? Are your job requirements being met? Then STFU. Or something.
2) I second the checking with your boss, the hiring one, and confirming that a) it’s ok for you to bring your daughter with you and b) that s/he is ok with your job performance to date.
3) It seems to me that he’s conflicted or something with this note. He states his case at least three separate times. Once was more than enough, but he seems to go on and on (and on) about how he can’t ask you to do anything because you have a baby in your arms (and that sure didn’t stop my husband from asking me to do stuff for him!). Something is off there. Almost makes me wonder if he has another issue outside of the baby thing that he’s trying not to talk about.
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November 24th, 2009 at 10:57 pm
Hey there, just stopping by – don’t even remember the winding link road I took to get here. I have to say, I would hardly call his letter “productful”(?). Definitely sounds like you’re a good mom, though.
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